I’ve learned from experience that if someone asks about my health and I try to share more than one diagnosis with them, 90% of the time their eyes glaze over midsentence and they either change the subject or walk away. And it’s not because they don’t care about me or the state of my body…they just get overwhelmed and I guess their brains switch gears on them without them realizing or meaning to, and then they move on, not realizing the conversation hadn’t even ended.
And I get it. Even I can’t remember everything that’s wrong with my body without the help of medical logs and treatment checklists. It really is a huge, confusing, mess! But I’ve found that if I share too little, people think I’m basically healthy…which I totally am not. And if I share too much, people get overwhelmed and they end up retaining very little of our conversation.
Both options are pretty discouraging for me, but what’s the most discouraging is that there usually isn’t a “happy medium” that I can share in between the two. When “too little” is me sharing 1 diagnosis, and “too much” is me trying to share 2, that doesn’t leave much of a space for a middle ground…So what’s a sick girl to do??
Well, I decided to try to write more bite-sized updates about my diagnoses in the future. And with just one update at a time, instead of “full” updates, as it were. Usually when people ask for my health updates, they’re asking for a summary of everything, not just an update for one specific issue…but that just isn’t working out for any of us. So I’m going to try this out and see how it goes 🙂
Hopefully it’ll make things easier for everyone!